Marraige or not
Marriage (Does it work?)
Talking to my friends the other day ( 2 of us divorced) and 1 unmarried. And the unmarried one was saying that its inconceivable for him to be looking at the same face (not his of course) for the rest of his life.
Well marriage works for some, I’ll concede that. But for many ( and the ranks are growing) it doesn’t.
First of all theres just too many distractions- in terms of women, men, clubs, parties etc etc you name it. Then there’s work. If one does enjoy it, then you find yourself at work more than with your spouse, to his/her exasperation.
If you don’t enjoy your work, the you find yourself carrying home the baggage of an unfulfilled career and you are moody with your spouse. Either way, work gets in the way.
Then come the kids and the need to be responsible! No more spontaneity in your lives. No more just getting it away from it all, on a sudden urge, unplanned, and ‘going up the country’
There should be compensations of course. The kid should bring more joy than if you didn’t have him, even with all the constraints.
But what if the kid brings along with him/her even greater pressures-such as a much higher cost of living and/or the expectations of him/her at school.
For men, who are in charge of their won security, there are so many things to do these days. There was a British study done on marriage and the reasons for it.
The men do it for regular and intimate sex while the women do it for the security. Nobody does it for love. Has it been that way since time immemorial?
Have we been lied to? Is marriage just a practical thing, a path to get laid and for the women, to have a pair of shoulders to rest their heads on?
I dunno-but I still get a hard on when I feel a girl actually likes me (that’s romance is it?) and I still feel all woozy and fuzzy when a lady shows some romantic interest.
It can’t be all practicality can it?
Divorce:
Call all the people who you invited for your wedding. Return all their gifts and they will in return throw you a big dinner.
Talking to my friends the other day ( 2 of us divorced) and 1 unmarried. And the unmarried one was saying that its inconceivable for him to be looking at the same face (not his of course) for the rest of his life.
Well marriage works for some, I’ll concede that. But for many ( and the ranks are growing) it doesn’t.
First of all theres just too many distractions- in terms of women, men, clubs, parties etc etc you name it. Then there’s work. If one does enjoy it, then you find yourself at work more than with your spouse, to his/her exasperation.
If you don’t enjoy your work, the you find yourself carrying home the baggage of an unfulfilled career and you are moody with your spouse. Either way, work gets in the way.
Then come the kids and the need to be responsible! No more spontaneity in your lives. No more just getting it away from it all, on a sudden urge, unplanned, and ‘going up the country’
There should be compensations of course. The kid should bring more joy than if you didn’t have him, even with all the constraints.
But what if the kid brings along with him/her even greater pressures-such as a much higher cost of living and/or the expectations of him/her at school.
For men, who are in charge of their won security, there are so many things to do these days. There was a British study done on marriage and the reasons for it.
The men do it for regular and intimate sex while the women do it for the security. Nobody does it for love. Has it been that way since time immemorial?
Have we been lied to? Is marriage just a practical thing, a path to get laid and for the women, to have a pair of shoulders to rest their heads on?
I dunno-but I still get a hard on when I feel a girl actually likes me (that’s romance is it?) and I still feel all woozy and fuzzy when a lady shows some romantic interest.
It can’t be all practicality can it?
Divorce:
Call all the people who you invited for your wedding. Return all their gifts and they will in return throw you a big dinner.
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